Is there anyone else out there who does NOT like bed time with their kids?
I mean, I detest it.
I try.
I really really try.
I think before I actually had children I had this idea of bed time being one of the sweetest parts of the day.
Reading, snuggling, dreaming, talking, etc....
Instead it's full of the most obnoxious noises they can possibly make, LOUD, smells gross....until you give them the shower/bath which just makes you soaking wet, gross and the bathroom dirty....again.
It's messy and there's usually a mess that you have to clean up first for safety purposes (I've stepped on too many Polly Pockets to just 'clean it up in the morning')
Everyone is telling you what they need next and after the 4,000 request I kinda feel used and that just makes me grumpy.
So.
By the time everyone is bathed, the Polly Pockets are housed, the blankets are on, I've been bossed around past my limit (because part of my 'bank' has already been dried up from the normal demands of the day), everyone is crying because mommy's grumpy, etc..
THE LAST thing I want to do is SNUGGLE, DREAM, READ, TALK.
No. I want to run out of the room and be done.
But that's not where it ends.
No.
"I" always forget something.
And no matter how many times I don't get 'it' for them because they were whining for it, they whine again the next night.
OR, someone is scared, or someone is being too loud, or someone is....
aaaaaaaaaahhhhhhh!!!!!
I told you.
I detest it.
I DO NOT detest my kids.
I really don't.
I leave the room every time with this pit in my stomach and a sadness over the fact that bed time seems to be that way more often than not.
But it's like they all have out of body experiences at bed time....who are they?
Normally Jake is here and rescues me, I leave for a little bit, cool off and I come back to snuggle, dream, read and talk.
But tonight it was a one man show, and I really need a co-star!
Maybe one day when I don't have three and a half people needing help with just about every aspect of bed time, (Lydia can do a lot but still needs some help so she only counts as a half...although 90% of the obnoxious noises come from her so maybe I'll just bump her back up and make it an even FOUR)
just maybe it will be one of the sweetest times of the day.
I sure hope so.
This is not what I want my kids dreaming about.
ok. I'm gonna go kiss them one more time.
just in case.
6 comments:
You are not alone. And I only have two. (Gretchen's pretty easy at this point.)
Bedtime used to feel like a war zone around here. Now it isn't as bad as it used to be. We quit bathing our boys at bedtime and do it in the morning (water is a stimulant to Gavin, and in turn Seth then gets hyper), and sometimes they just sleep in their clothes (Seth likes to do that.) And after a year and a half here things are starting to settle down. I totally know what you mean. When Andrew isn't home I sometimes let them stay up extra late so they quickly fall asleep from exhaustion (even if they have a good cry first because the didn't get to...) Hang in there. You are an awesome Mommy!
That "Maybe one day"...really does exist! I used to bungee cord the girls' door shut and listen to them scream and bang...because I didn't know what else to do. Only now on occasion do I sit and read books or sing a song. Hang in there...those cuddle moments will show up again and they will be awesome!
See, I don't mind bed time, but, I hate giving my kids baths! And, this is the one thing that most moms love to do! It makes me feel like a bad mom! Why don't I like that?
oh yes, I've posted on this very topic. My mom's consolation to me was "ha! you did it to me, you've got it coming!" :( Not fun and I hear you on the pit in your stomach. I'm learning that sometimes our great expectations sabotage us. Instead of snuggling I say a blessing from between grit teeth (for them and a prayer for me) then try to get out of the room with as few commands as possible
I have to say you said it very well and I'm right there with you.
It by far is not my favorite part of the day -- I thought I was teh only mom that felt this way. Thanks for your openness...hoping someday it will be different in our house. :) In the meantime, I'm praying for God to change my 'tude...
BTW...love seeing where you are now and will continue to read up on you all. You are such an encouragement to me as a mom!
miss you all.
Mandi
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