others meaning, ANYONE besides themselves.
Samantha has an obsession with getting prizes - I don't know what for, but it's a constant conversation for her.
And
Lydia, smart girl, thinks if Samantha gets a prize, then she should too, which makes it a double conversation.
It's wearing on me.
And I wonder if they are being spoiled or if we're not doing something right or if it's just because they are 4 and 5 living in the wealthy nation that they do.
Just thinking out loud here.
I, strongly, have a desire to raise Godly, others focused, kids.
It's not about me, it's not about them....
....I'm gonna go brainstorm.
any ideas?
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I just had this conversation with my Mom about Sydaleigh, to which she replied, "She's a kid. She only has the capacity to think about herself." Oh, gotta loves moms! That wasn't really what I was looking for, but still true! They are just kids. And to them, the world revolves around them. They care about THEIR wants and needs, everyone and everything else is secondary. But even though kids are selfish, I know that if I am consistent to encourage them to be selfless, someday, maybe when they're adults they will be. (b/c Lord knows as teens it's still gonna be all about them!) They'll get there. Give it time....lots and lots and lots of time! :)
When the Haiti crisis happened, it was the first time I noticed my son really thinking about others. I showed him pictures of some of the stories and we prayed for the people in Haiti, then he would bring up conversations about the situation from time to time. Maybe doing an outreach of sorts would get the girls thinking about others who have less and help them to be less focused on getting. I know you do lots of fund-raising, and out reach and have a real heart for people. Your girls will pick that up through your example. It is true that kids are kids and they are not being selfish out of a desire to be vindictive, they are just like us and get caught up in the world. It will take time and practice, prayer and mistakes to learn to consistently put others first. I'm still learning this. Please post your findings, you always have such good ideas.
Foster :)...okay, I know you are probably super busy with the four you have and this is most likely not an option.
We have our first foster baby and we have our three bio (ages 7, 5 and 3). We noticed our kids have the same ideas as you mentioned. I am really sick of hearing, "do you think I deserve..." and I think it is definitely and age thing and where we live. I have noticed though that they really get it...taking care of the baby. They get that his mommy can't take care of him now and they are in general getting it that this is what we do...we take care of others. It is pretty neat.
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