you don't say it and really, coming from AN EXPERT here, you don't even think it.
just don't.
you are losing out in the worst way and you are digging a grave for the other person.
maybe being their friend and investing in them has NOTHING do to with you?
2. "OH! you're military? .......(long silent pause)......"
don't pause.
we usually know what it means.
3. "well. you don't understand because it's always harder to be the one left behind"
newsflash!!!! The person you're talking to does move around, but they are not the ONLY ones, they are in a massively large community of people moving around which means they have, more than likely, thrown more 'Going-Away' parties than you could even wrap your mind around.
we leave a lot, we are left more....sometimes even by our spouses....for very long amounts of time.
well, that was gentle, wasn't it?
sorry.
it just hurts when people say crap like that - there is no such thing as saying it in 'jest' either.
there just isn't.
6 comments:
#1 is just unbelievable to me. Seriously?? What would make someone think that is an appropriate thing to say? Seriously.
Amy~
I've had it said to me seriously but more often than not people are 'joking' - but again, I say, there is no such thing as saying that in jest.
and I know, it is unbelievable, except I've taken the shot so many times that I now believe it ;-)
(and I just put a bandaid on the wound and move on thankful that I found that out about them early on!)
Holly-
I just want to say thank you for being my friend, even though you knew you were moving at any moment. And for hooking me up with all your amazing friends. I really enjoy hanging out with them! Miss you, girl, and praying for your church hunt.
b.
case in point...SEE!
you say/think these things and you miss out on the Beccy's in life.
trust me! YOU DO NOT WANT TO MISS OUT ON THE BECCY'S!!!!
sadly enough these comments are common on the ROK. Mil families move in and out on a quarterly basis so I have heard this FROM mil families. Glad someone put into words what I was thinking!
Ginger~
I grew up in a military family. Those common phrases do suck but you have to also consider the fact that many people who say it --- they honestly do not know any better. You almost have to feel sorry for them because they are in a HUGE way missing out when they make such comments. I guess that's where the hard part comes in --- we keep being who we are in spite of who they are --- no? Those phrases do suck. They really do. I call those bummer phrases. That tells me the people who's mouths the phrases come out of need more of you in an even
BIGGER way?
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