glue

I often wonder if my kids get enough time with me, their mommy.

I want to start now building a cushion of trust that they will always be able to fall on so I very deliberately make time to spend one on one time with each one of the big girls and will start with the babies soon too.

Samantha has (or so I thought) been a very blessed little girl to spend two mornings out with me while the babies and Lydia played with other friends or stayed home with our helper.

After a busy morning I was sure that everyone would be looking forward to their alone time during nap.

Instead we had a serious, but funny, case of withdrawal:

To preface, the girls hardly EVER disobey during nap time - we all go down from 2-4p, Lydia is in one room, Samantha another, the babies in their cribs. NO ONE is allowed out except to go potty...period. - everyone has space to be alone and that's just how it is - I have worked very hard to get to this point and I do nothing to rock it.

So, imagine my surprise when I hear intense giggling from both Lydia and Samantha and it sounds like it's coming from the same room - "not to be a party pooper but back to your room Samantha! and Lydia, why was she in here?" "I wanted her mommy." "Well, I asked you to shut your eyes and go to sleep, you are very tired" "But I don't know how!!!!" "I guess we'll have to work on that but for now, it's time to rest alone" (I know, not my most stellar line but how are you supposed to respond to that?)

everyone back in position.

10 minutes later:

doors slamming, PEEK A BOO!!!!! sounds, and more intense giggling.

in an attempt to obey and still be together they were playing peekaboo with their respective doors (but still in their rooms.)

As soon as 4p hit I let them back together and neither one made a peep or made eye contact with anyone else the rest of the night!

so, note to self, don't overdo the mommy time, it backfires! DO carve out time for Lydia and Samantha time - there is a deep bond forming that I'm sure to never understand, however, I do recognize it's gift and will do all I can to cultivate it.